That uncomfortable feeling in your stomach. The pounding in your head. The sinking feeling that you went overboard.
I’m not talking about getting drunk and waking up hungover. I’m talking about waking up after the intense spending of the holiday season and realizing that you spent too much and blew your budget.
Did You Overspend?
Resisting temptation has become more complicated than ever. Online ads and marketing are better than ever due to data mining and targeted promotions. The stores know what YOU want, and they market directly towards that. We have all spent weeks and weeks with advertisers pinpointing our weak points, showing us ads, and sending emails to get us to weaken our resolve.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with buying something you need or want for the holidays. I personally bought some stuff- of course there will be money that is spent. As long as you budgeted for it and can afford it, there is no problem. The problem is when you overdo it by spending more than you budgeted or if you can’t afford it.
So, did you overspend? If you did, what do you do now?
Return What You Can
The first thing to do is go through all your purchases and return those that are clearly impulse buys or something you regret. Most stores offer pretty generous return policies, and if they don’t- try to sell it on eBay or some other resale site. If it’s still in its original packaging- you should make most of your money back. If you overbought holiday decor or seasonal items that you didn’t use, then return them. You might get some side eyes, but if they are unused and fall within the return criteria- then don’t worry about it.
What About Everything Else?
All the stuff you didn’t know you needed until you did or all the stuff you rationalized you needed. It’s not so easy to return something once you bought it.
Take each item and ask yourself the following questions to help you figure out what you need and what you can return or try to resell:
- Ask Yourself: Do I Need This, or Do I Want This? I don’t like asking, “Does this spark joy?” or “Does this bless my home?” when talking about things you are buying. It’s great for getting rid of things, but when we buy something, the answer to both those questions is usually a resounding Yes! When we have things that we need (or want) we can’t afford, then that is a problem. We can’t stay within our budget and spark joy. If you could do that, you wouldn’t be reading this post. It’s important to differentiate between a need and a want. We can buy things that we want- we have to make sure that we recognize that it is, in fact, a want and not a need.
- Ask Yourself: Why Do I Need This or Want This? We buy many things that fill a need or a want- but sometimes we lie to ourselves about what that reason is. Is it because you have no clothes to wear that you bought that new top, or is it because you dread a holiday party, so you want something to wear that will make you feel pretty? Is it because your kid needs to read more so they don’t fall behind in school, or is it because you like watching your kid’s face light up when you give them something special? Is it because you need to give your sister a holiday gift, or because you know she is going through a hard time, so you want to give her something extra particular this year? Do I need that vase, or do I want to be the kind of person who has a statement vase in their living room? Remember: there are no right or wrong answers to these questions. All of these are valid reasons to purchase something- but when you get to the “why” of it, you can solidify for yourself what you really need or want.
- Ask Yourself: Would I Buy This if It’s Not on Sale? If there was no deal- would you have gone out and bought it anyway? For example, diapers you would have purchased even if it wasn’t on sale. Maybe even a sweater you would have bought at full price. But would you have bought this particular item if it wasn’t on sale? Or did you buy it because it was “just $5”?
- Ask Yourself: Am I Getting Caught up in the Moment? Sometimes, there is the pressure of buying something TODAY because the deal won’t last. Or because the ad is just so appealing. Or because the atmosphere in the store was festive, so you figure why not? You really have to stop and think about whether you bought it because you needed or wanted it or because you just got carried away.
These questions can help you clarify which items you need and which items should be returned. Keep on doing this with every item until you are once again under your budget.
You should get into the habit of asking yourself these questions BEFORE you buy the item.
Still Not Working?
It’s time to take yourself out of the equation—no more emotions.
In a room without any of the stuff you bought: Make a list of all the things you bought, how much they cost, and who you bought them for.
Then, try reading the list with as little emotion as possible. Look at the hard numbers and try to approach this from a neutral point of view. So much of what we buy is based on emotions. We buy things to make us feel good, make us feel in control, make others feel good, etc. When you take the emotions out of the purchase and look at it with a cold eye, it’s easier to see where you are overspending. This is why it is so much easier to tell SOMEONE ELSE what to cut out of their budget or call them out on their spending (why do you think there are so many personal finance bloggers?!).
If you are struggling with this- call a friend (one who will help you- not egg you on) and have them go over the list with you. Keep on returning items until you are once more under budget.
What if I Did That, and I Am Still Over Budget?!
It was all things that I needed, and I am not returning any of them! If that is the case, then don’t allow this budget lapse to spur you to spend money until after New Year’s. As I talked about before when I discussed budgeting for one thing after another– it’s important to not let one “failure” spur you on to another failure. Approach the rest of the month with a clean slate. Just because you overspent now doesn’t mean it’s a free-for-all, and it doesn’t mean you are doomed to bust the rest of the budget as well.
Clean slate. New budget. This time, you will be able to stick to it!
Start the New Year Differently
Now, it’s time to change your habits. Next year is going to be different. It’s time to do two things to make sure this doesn’t happen again.
1. Start the envelope cash budgeting system. The cash envelope approach is a budgeting tool that lets you manage your expenses by categorizing them. Based on your spending goals, you’ll pick how much money goes into each cash envelope, and if that envelope’s cash has been used up, you are unable to spend any additional money in that category. This works really, really well for saving on seasonal expenses such as holiday expenses. You simply budget every month for the holidays or put any “extra cash” you receive and put it in that envelope. Then, when it’s time to spend, you have the money ready to spend.
Start using it today: How To Use the Cash Envelope System To Budget Your Money Effectively
2. Join the $1,000 Savings Challenge. It’s time to start taking control of your financial future. Join the $1,000 Savings Challenge to get some real control of your savings and your money. You can also join the $1,000 Savings Challenge Facebook Group to connect with people who are in the same boat as you.
What are you waiting for? Join Today!
