From Strained to Strong: How Budgeting Rescued My Marriage

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When I got pregnant with my first child, we knew we had to save money.

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We had been bopping around before then, putting money on credit cards and paying it off, taking some money and putting it into savings, taking it out again.

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We WANTED to save money, but there never really seemed to be any money at the end of the month to put away.

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When we realized we needed to save more money for the baby, we hit a snag.

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I am naturally frugal and have an easier time, just NOT spending money. My husband is not a big spender, but he occasionally buys a coffee, a danish, a pricey ingredient at the store.

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As we continued to bicker, I became more controlling, and he became more defensive

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We had become something that we both didn’t want to be: A COUPLE THAT FIGHTS ABOUT MONEY.

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All our interactions were becoming about money, and the “SAVINGS” was a big, black cloud that hung over our marriage.

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