When I got pregnant with my first child, we knew we had to save money. We had been bopping around before then, putting money on credit cards and paying it off, taking some money and putting it into savings, taking it out again.
When we realized we needed to save more money for the baby, we hit a snag. I am naturally frugal and have an easier time, just NOT spending money. My husband is not a big spender, but he occasionally buys a coffee, a danish, a pricey ingredient at the store.
As we continued to bicker, I became more controlling, and he became more defensive- “You’re not my mother” became a common refrain. When he came home with flowers for me in an effort to appease me, it just escalated the situation!