Instead of directly asking someone to do something, frame it as a preference question such as “Would you be opposed to doing this?”. This approach feels less demanding and gives people a sense of control. It also raises the likelihood of receiving a positive response.
Maintaining eye contact might feel daunting, but it can project confidence. The more you start using direct eye contact, the more you start to feel more self-assured in day-to-day interactions.
If your job entails working with clients, try asking about whether they have children. Asking to see a photo or inquiring about their kids’ achievements creates a personal connection that’s invaluable.