A Reddit user shared her story of booking an all-inclusive trip to another country and not inviting her boyfriend to come.
The original poster (OP) explained that she and her boyfriend have been together for almost three years. She said that he has met pretty much her entire family in the three years.
She said she has a very large, close-knit family. His family, in comparison, is small and less closely knit.
OP said that recently, her boyfriend had a dream about his grandfather that spooked him, so he reached out the same day.
He discovered that his grandfather wasn’t doing great health-wise, so he planned a last-minute trip to see him. OP offered to go with him for moral support, but he was very against the idea. OP said she understood and backed off.
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OP said that later she found out that her boyfriend was taking a friend on the trip because of the rock climbing opportunities in the area. She was upset and brought it up with him again.
Her boyfriend got upset and told her to “plan her own trips instead of hitchhiking on hers.” He told her that she could invite him on a trip but that she wasn’t going on this one with him, and she needed to get over it.
OP felt angry and dismissed, so she booked an all-inclusive trip to Mexico for two months after her boyfriend’s trip and didn’t invite him.
She said she will spend some time “being warm” and “getting tipsy” on the beach. Her boyfriend thinks it was petty of her to do that and not ask him to come too.
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He claims she is the one being dismissive of the fact that he just wants to visit his grandfather without OP present. He said that the trip was “way different” than the one he was going on. OP told him to plan his own trips and stop trying to hitchhike on hers. She said he wasn’t impressed.
The Masses Weigh In
The Reddit community was very supportive of OP in this situation.
One user said, “NTA. Good for you. Your boyfriend is being selfish, rude, and insensitive. I hope your time away from him lets you see just the kind of partner he is. You deserve better, OP.”
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Another added, “NTA. Some will say it’s petty and maybe it is but I also think it’s healthy to give yourself that time away from a partner and just be with yourself when you’re with someone who isn’t really appreciating you or being as considerate as they should.”
Another user chimed in, “NTA Petty, but this is a case of mess around and find out. If he was ONLY seeing his dying grandfather and wanted time alone with him to reconnect it would be ok. But then he decided to invite a friend to go rock climbing while there and excluded you? He was petty first and is getting his just rewards. Enjoy the beach!”
Was it fair for OP’s boyfriend to invite a friend on his trip and leave her behind? Was it fair for her to turn around and book the Mexico trip without inviting him? How would you have reacted in this situation?
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