A Reddit user shares her story of one of her bridesmaids showing up to her wedding in the wrong color dress and making a scene when she was asked to change.
The original poster (OP) starts by explaining that since it is winter, her wedding is winter themed, and the colors are forest green and gold. Her dress was obviously white, and her maid of honor’s dress was black, and everyone was required to wear gold jewelry.
OP said that she has a friend who she asked to be a bridesmaid who said she didn’t like the color theme and thought forest green was an unflattering color.
She said OP should go with a color that is more “girly,” but OP stood her ground and said, “no, but thanks for your opinion.”
Once the girl found out that the maid of honor’s dress was black, she asked if she could wear black too, and OP said no, only the maid of honor could wear black. OP paid for all of the dresses.
The Big Day
On the day of the wedding, the girl showed up half an hour late with a dress bag in her hand. When OP asked what was in it, she said that it was a dress for her to change into at the reception. When everyone was gathered about to walk down the stairs for the ceremony, the girl appeared in a black dress.
OP was taking pictures with her parents then, but her maid of honor quickly found her and let her know what was happening.
OP confronted the girl, who said she hated the bridesmaid dress and that the color looked ugly and gross on her, so she would wear black.
OP told her to go change into the correct dress. She refused and began to walk away. OP said she could either change or she would be having security escort her out.
The girl yelled at her, and OP called security and told them to escort her out. The girl made a huge scene, yelling names at OP and telling her that she couldn’t force her to wear anything and that she was a horrible and inconsiderate friend. OP said that after that, the wedding went off without a hitch.
After the fact, some of her bridesmaids said that it was a bit harsh for her to have kicked out the girl and embarrassed her.
The Masses React
Most users were on OP’s side, saying she was justified in kicking her out.
The top-voted comment said, “NTA. She embarrassed herself. She agreed to wear the dress you picked out, and then deceitfully planned to change at the last moment in the hope that you’d just let her get away with it. She knew that you would tell her no.”
Another said, “Especially since OP paid for all of the Green bridesmaids dresses. Frankly she should demand that Kat pay her back for the green dress! But I think OP’s plan of just blocking her and her drama is the best choice.”
She continued, “NTA, OP. Kat tried to make the wedding about herself and it backfired on her. As someone above stated, she agreed to play the part of the bridesmaid and that means wearing the costume (dress) you picked out. If she’s really so insecure that she can’t be seen in a non-preferred color then she should have dropped out. There are SO many crazy brides out there making ridiculous demands of their wedding party and/or guests. All you did was expect your wedding party to wear the attire you picked out. That is a very basic wedding expectation.”
Was OP justified in kicking the girl out of her wedding? Should the girl have complied and changed dresses? How would you have reacted in this situation?
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