Her Kids Are Late to School Because She Makes Them Shower Twice a Day

A woman posted in the Am I the ***hole subreddit, explaining how her morning routine makes the kids late for school. She insists that the kids take daily morning showers and will not compromise. Her partner thinks otherwise.

Harsh or Normal Morning Routine?

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The original poster (OP), a 31-year-old woman, has been married to her 35-year-old wife for two years. Her wife has two kids, 9 and 7, from her previous relationship. OP says she considers the two kids her own.

OP is responsible for preparing and taking the kids to school every morning. She works remotely and starts work a bit later than her wife, so she is well set to handle this routine. She, however, admits that the mornings and generally getting the kids ready for school can be a hassle.

Its a Hassle

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For starters, getting the kids out of bed is usually a fight. When they are finally out of bed, they do not have enough time to get ready for school and take their breakfast.

Now, the issue here is OP insists the kids take a shower in the morning when they also take one at night. She says this is how she grew up and firmly believes that showering in the morning will refresh the kids and prepare them for the day. This morning routine has resulted in a few late drop-offs to the point that OP’s wife has been notified.

Are Morning Showers Necessary?

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While following up on what could be making the kids late for school, OP’s wife could not understand why the kids have to shower in the mornings when they shower at night.

OP clarified to her wife the different purposes of the showers. To her, the morning shower is to wake you up, and the night shower is to clean up after running around all day.

Get Up Earlier

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OP’s wife could not see the need for the kids to take showers in the morning, especially if it was the reason they were running late for school. They needed to find a solution…and guess what?

OP suggested that the kids wake up earlier so that they have enough time to “freshen up.” Letting go of the morning showers was not an option for her.

How often should kids shower? Are morning showers that important for kids?

The Masses Weigh In

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So, is OP the ***hole for insisting that the kids take a shower in the morning?

Just to give a heads-up, many people thought OP was in the wrong for that. Many expressed how much they couldn’t see the need to shower twice a day, especially for prepubescent kids.

Bad for Their Skin, Bad for the Environment

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One commenter said, “I’m pretty sure it’s awful for their skin. One shower a day is plenty. Maybe too much, honestly, but…Anyway, OP, this is a YTA (you are the ***hole) situation.”

Another added, “Awful for their skin, bad for the environment, etc. Unless you work a job that’s filthy or in health services or you’ve just exercised (in which case start showering post-exercise instead as a routine), you should not be showering so often.”

It’s Not Refreshing

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Another chimed in, “As someone who isn’t a morning person, having a mandated morning shower where I have to get up earlier isn’t something I would consider refreshing. It would make me more grouchy during the first half of the day. OP seems to be doing this mainly because she likes it, but not everyone does. I hate morning showers; I can’t imagine a worse way to wake up. Especially when it’s rushed, and someone is shouting at you to hurry up.”

They Were Invited to a BBQ but Then Showed Up to An Empty Grill Because The Hosts Thought They Were Bringing The Food

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A Reddit user shared a story about how they were invited to a BBQ only to realize they were expected to bring food for the occasion. The hosts became annoyed when they didn’t bring food and refused to buy.

They Were Invited to a BBQ but Then Showed Up to An Empty Grill Because The Hosts Thought They Were Bringing The Food

She Went Back Home After Her Husband Chose to SHARE THE BED With His Friend and Asked Her to Sleep on the Floor

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One Reddit user posted in the “Am I the ***hole” group on Reddit, asking whether she was wrong for cutting her vacation short and returning home after her husband asked her to sleep on the floor instead of the bed.

She Went Back Home After Her Husband Chose to SHARE THE BED With His Friend and Asked Her to Sleep on the Floor

Petty Revenge? His Neighbor Thinks He Owns the Street Parking Spots in Front of His House Until He Is Given a Taste of His Own Medicine

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About three years ago, a new neighbor moved into the house across the street from the original poster’s (OP) house. This new neighbor had five boys at the time; the youngest was 15 years old, and soon he turned 16.

Petty Revenge? His Neighbor Thinks He Owns the Street Parking Spots in Front of His House Until He Is Given a Taste of His Own Medicine

Entitled Much? Sister-In-Law Wants Her Daughter’s Disney Trip Paid For Because It “Takes A Village”

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The family of the original poster (OP) had a tradition of going on fun trips on the kids’ 10th birthdays. OP’s parents had done it for the whole family, and now they want to continue doing it for their grandchildren.

Entitled Much? Sister-in-Law Wants Her Daughter’s Disney Trip Paid For Because It “Takes a Village”

She Came Home And Her Wedding Dress Was Gone, He Had Returned It Because It Was “Too Expensive”

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Imagine coming home and finding your wedding dress missing from the closet… and then finding out your fiancee returned it to the store without asking you.

A Reddit user shared her story of going off on her fiancee for returning her wedding dress.

She Came Home and Her Wedding Dress Was Gone, He Had Returned It Because It Was “Too Expensive”

 

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