4 Great Books to Read Right Now

Running List of Books

Here are some great books that I love that have really helped me with gaining control of my financial life. Even though some of the books have nothing to do with finances- they have helped gain control of my life and therefore of my finances. Everything is intertwined. Having control of your life will help you have control of your finances. Having control of your finances will help you be in control of your life.

All these books are available on Amazon (affiliate links are located in this post) but you can check your local library to see if any are available. I don’t like to spend money and that includes books so I don’t buy a book unless I have already read it and KNOW that I want to own it.

I personally invested in a Kindle a few years back and I constantly check out books from the library onto my Kindle instead of buying books or e-books. This way I don’t need to make it to the library while they are actually open.

Here is a list of 4 great books and I would love to add more to the list. These are all worth a read!

(You can also give them as gifts but people don’t take kindly to being giving self-help books as a gift. It comes across as um.. sanctimonious and jerky.)

  1. The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. This is the basic book of personal finance and paying off debt. Although many people disagree with some of his methods it has worked for many, many people particularly those who are drowning in debt and can’t seem to get out. Its a great basic book and you have to read it first to disagree with it.
  2. How Not to Die by Dr. Michael Greger– This is not a personal finance book but a health book that helped me improve my eating habits. He is a big proponent of a plant-based diet which means cutting out a lot of animal-based proteins. Using this book as a guide has helped me cut down on my grocery bill tremendously while eating healthier. How Not to Die Cookbook is the cookbook companion and includes recipes that he approves of. Just Remember: just because it is vegan does not mean it is budget-friendly. I actually own this book which should tell you how much I like it because I don’t buy books.
  3. Sink Reflections by FlyLady– One of my favorites. My mother read this when I was a teenager and I adopted many of her tools since then. This is not a personal finance book but following her book will save your finances. Getting organized about meal planning, cleaning, shopping etc. will save you all that money that is unnecessarily spent. No more spending money on take-out because there is no dinner, no more buying things twice because you forgot where you put it, no more last minute shopping. The tools and habits in this book are life-changing! No joke.
  4. The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley- I haven’t read this book yet but it is on my reading list. This was recommended by @Financesafter50 after I posted on Twitter asking for recommendations. See what his response was here.

What other books have changed your life? Hit the comments or respond to my tweet! Great books will be added to this post! Respond here!

 

Shopping and Kids: A Terrible Combination

How To Say “No” To Your Kids

We’ve all seen it: the kid screaming in the store because they so desperately want the toy that is the only thing that is standing between them and eternal happiness. And the mother, red-faced and angry, trying to complete her shopping while her kid is screaming and howling across the store.

And sometimes you are that mother and the only thing standing you between you and eternal happiness is your kid stopping to scream. So there are really only two options: give in to the kid or have a shopping trip from hell. Neither are ideal. This is only made worse if you cannot actually afford to buy the child said item. Kids don’t really get that when it comes to bread vs. random action figure then bread wins every time. They just assume that they will be well-fed, no matter what. And it comes down to us, the poor parents, to make those difficult decisions (not). But no matter how tight money is, there is probably not a mother in the world who considered giving in to her child when that tantrum starts.

Two weeks ago, I had a lot less cash than I usually did. This meant no extra spending on anything. Since I am very strict about using my credit card (emergencies only-and that means medicine.) I had taken my kids to the park and I just couldn’t deal with the inevitable walk home past all the lovely shops on the way to my house. Even without the possible tantrums-who can handle that look of longing and heartbreak on those adorable faces? So I did something that I thought was pretty smart- walk the long way around and miss all the stores entirely. It took longer-but hey-we can all use a little extra exercise!

So how do you say “no” to your kids?

The best way is to avoid the situation altogether. Basically, I don’t take my kids to the store. Ever. And no-this doesn’t mean that I just leave them at home with a babysitter or ordering everything online. This usually means, early morning trips or very late store trips. Or waiting until my husband comes home or husband doing the shopping instead of me even though I don’t like the vegetables he picks out. It’s not easy to organize this way but it certainly beats taking my children shopping! And I save money this way! And please don’t take your kids to a really “fun” store if you are not planning/cannot afford to get them anything-it’s too hard for those little people to control themselves!

When I do take my kids to the store there is a LOT of preparation involved:

  1. I set out expectation beforehand: “We are only buying milk and bread- nothing else” or “We can pick out 1 treat- and I have to approve of it”.
  2. In the store I try to keep them as engaged as possible in what we actually have to buy. I let them pick the items of the shelf. I offer options- red or green peppers? I have them hold the items that we are purchasing.
  3. Before we get to the checkout (where enticing options are usually lurking) I remind them again: “we are not buying anything this time- only the milk and bread that we picked out” or “You already picked out one treat -we are not getting anything else”.
  4. I praise them constantly for not complaining and make a big deal when we leave the store about their great behavior: “wow! I am so proud that you didn’t even ask for a toy!”

How do you make saying “no” to your kids less painful? How do you make sure your kids don’t derail your budget?

Blogger Recognition Award

I was nominated by Melanie from Partners in Fire for a Blogger Recognition award. Thank you so much Melanie for all your support! Melanie is a great blogger who is pursuing Financial Independence. Follow her on twitter and subscribe to her blog to receive her latest blog posts by email.

The Award
The Blogger Recognition Award is given by bloggers to recognize others within the blogging community. It’s a great way to recognize each other for the hard work we put in. It’s also a great way to support the bloggers we know and love.
The Rules:
Thank the Blogger who nominated you (me!)
Write a post as to why you started your blog
Include 2 bits of advice you would give to other bloggers
Nominate other bloggers and comment on their response

I am a mother in my 20’s. About 2 years ago, I lost my job. I had 1 child and one on the way. My husband is still a student and brings in very little money with some of his side jobs. That period was one of the worst in my life, but one of the greatest learning experiences. (More on that story later). We lived on nothing. We made it through on my husband’s part-time job and the money I made doing survey’s online (no it wasn’t a lot!) but we were determined not to go into major debt. Since then I have (Thank g-d!) gotten a job. But we are still a family living on a pretty tight budget although we are lucky enough to have no debt (again follow my blog to hear that story one day).

When you spend time so focused on personal finance and being frugal you start to notice how much other people are messing up their finances;) and I realized how much I enjoy reading and learning about personal finances. This meant that I had so much to share on the topic. I quickly realized that I was boring my friends and family with my financial musings and advice so I decided to start this blog anonymously. It’s pretty much a secret from my family and friends.

Thus “A Dime Saved” was born- I offer financial advice for the newly starting out on their financial journey and for those who are not in a position to save tons of money and who have to stretch their food budget every week. Since its my blog I also get to share my own advice and musings on personal finance and life.

I do this blog as a hobby- to get my sanctimonious advice out my system and to utilize my writing skills. If I make some money from this blog then I wont complain! I will just dump it all into my 3-6 month emergency fund which is pretty slow in coming!

My Advice (for what it’s worth):
1. Just do it- don’t think too much about it- post what you can and you can always go back and edit later. Don’t focus on perfection- just share what you can.
2. Don’t focus on the money- I know! I Know! We all need extra money in our lives, especially when you have so little of it. But making money from blogging is a long, slow process and focusing on the money aspect too much can really bog you down. Enjoy the process.

Nominations:
The FI Guys
Guided by Coffee
Mint Habits